All the suffering in this world is caused by human behaviour. Change your attitude and you’ll see the world transforming around you.
For this, people need to start owning their shit. Me. You. Everybody.
I’m only halfway there. Sometimes I cry like a baby when I didn’t set a clear border and somebody vamped the blood from under my nails.
Victimhood is when you believe the world outside of you is there to cause you harm and you’re powerless. You’re constantly reacting to the next ‘bad luck’, or ‘crisis’, instead of creating the life you want and feeling on top of things.
Owning your shit changes everything in your personal life.
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This world will become an exponential better place when ‘owning shit’ would become the new culture overnight. Now we look like a bunch of retarded children blaming everybody else but ourselves while we hide behind our screens.
Here’s a speed course.
What does owning your shit mean?
Apart from being in touch with your deeper feelings, needs, and pain, and being able to express all of that, owning your shit means;
You don't blame others for your (shitty) circumstances
You become aware of your triggers and the pain behind them.
You don’t hide behind what the group wants
You’re able to speak your truth, even when you’re the only person in the room
You don’t numb yourself out in addictions
You don’t use toxic group dynamics to shame others and hide behind the group's consensus (and your screen) that this is rightful behaviour
Instead, you feel into their beating human heart and know they have the same fears, worries and difficulties that you have
You realize that your judgement about others tell equally things about yourself, you own that
Since others are merely mirrors for you to grow, you approach each and every human with an open heart, while setting clear boundaries
You’re not Jesus.
Why is everybody acting like children lately?
Social Media has turned into Kindergarten.
Regressing into a collective childlike state is the result of the lack of taking responsibility. What we’ve seen the last 2 years is millions literally giving their power away. Instead of owning their (own) thoughts and claiming authority over their decisions. The socially pressured Vaccine out-roll made millions lose their sovereignty over their body too. Fear did the rest.
On a psychological level, by giving away your self-governing authority, you shut down your inner adult. The one that makes consequential choices and will hold you responsible for the outcome. That is sane grown-up behaviour. Because of constant fear, in-group pressure, social media presented bias, and the will to survive, this inner adult shuts down. A fearful child inside is all that’s left. In psychology, this is called neurosis. It’s actually one of the effects of what Prof de Smet calls “Group Formation.” Free-floating anxiety is a key driver for this phenomenon. And now it has become global— excerpt from this article
The result is what you see around you on a social level; Humanity is rock bottoming.
There is a way out, and this starts with you.
No pressure.
Stop blaming others for not coercing, not following the main narrative, for being critical
When you find yourself in that fearful child-like state, it's natural you want to blame others for not following The Teacher. The authoritative body that imposed the rules. The socially accepted narrative. The Groups Think.
What you’re doing when you socially blame or shame somebody who acts or thinks differently, is that you actually call daddy.
You call the authority, for protection. It’s like being in kindergarten, pointing fingers at kids that don’t follow rules, and shouting to the teacher that they should be punished or removed. So your inner kid can feel safe. At some point, the inner kid doesn’t even care what happens with the kid on the other side of the fence— source
It’s enough to take a small peek into history to learn that this kind of dangerous groups dynamics can potentially lead to the worst atrocities.
Accept other opinions, stay open for alternative explanations.
Own any inconvenient feeling that there are other humans out there that don't follow suit. They’re not a threat. They’re other human beings with a beating heart. When you cancel them, they won't simply fall from the face of the earth.
Become aware of your triggers
At some level, all the world events evolving around you can be triggering something, or not.
The effect and impact of these triggers will determine your level of empowerment, and thus your level of victimhood.
Disclaimer; things like extended lockdowns were completely new in this era and they impacted almost everyone on earth. Lockdowns triggered some people more than others. In fact, some will tell you they actually liked it, and everything it brought, and others clearly will see it as an illegal infringement on basic human rights. Something the High Court in Spain agrees on. Even this fact doesn’t matter, its the impact the lockdown had on people.
For many it has caused another layer of trauma. In countries that locked up their people for year, probably a collective one.
Making triggers aware means you own the effect that the trigger has on you.
It's like opening a zip file and going to some traumatic event in your life that the trigger relates to. This means you’ll need to go through the pain too.
The result is that you’re not blaming others, the Government, COVID, the Elites. A part of your empowerment can mean that you do everything in your power to avoid future events that can lead to more trauma.
Own your fear
Changes are moving fast due to the 4th industrial revolution. That’s fearful enough by itself. Our so-called world leaders made a plan but forgot to ask whether we consent with their great reset. The result is even higher levels of fear.
And…this is triggering the hell out of millions of people worldwide, including myself.
My process is going from initial fear (‘they’re all gonna control us with their digital layer of control’), to feeling what this fear triggers in me (‘I feel increasingly unsafe in this world, I can’t trust authority), to owning all of that and see what I can do to make a change.
That’s the empowerment part.
Staying in fear means I keep on giving my power away as if all those Great Reset plans are already a reality. No, I’m creating an alternative society with my peers, no matter the costs and efforts.
Own your Pain
We seem divided as hell, but I’m sure on a personal level we all go through the same fears.
Now you have new tools to react different to things coming your way. How to handle your triggers. How to move from being the victim to creating your desired reality. To become the King of your life.
It’s just a start, but a crucial one. Remember one thing;
Victimhood is based on fear to embrace your real power and inner strength. It arises from avoiding feeling and expressing what you really feel deep inside, including your pain.
It’s only when you’re in touch with your pain when you can start to take responsibility for your life
Here’s where empowerment and a better world starts.
Lucien Lecarme
Hearing you loud and clear, Lucien. I use the same terminology as you about 'giving away your power'. I don't think people realize that's what we are doing by blindly embracing BigTech and infusing it into our lives. Unless we have a means for balancing that power, we individually and collectively wind up on the wrong side of the energy field.